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🌪️ Outsmart Your Brain’s Negativity Bias (Here’s How)
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⚡In This Week’s Issue:
Deep Dive: Why your brain clings to criticism, and how to stop it
Quick Tip: One small language tweak to make you sound instantly more confident
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A QUICK TIP TO SPEAK UP WITH CONFIDENCE
Replace “Does that make sense?” with “Let me know if you have any questions.”
đź§ Why it works: Keeps your authority intact.
👉 Use it: At the end of emails or presentations.
ONE CLEAR THOUGHT: A single question to challenge your thinking.
💬 Take 5 minutes to reflect. No overthinking! Just write…
What boundary have I blurred by staying vague?
📝 How this helps: Clear boundaries get respected. Vague ones don’t.
🔍 DEEP DIVE
🌪️ Outsmart Your Brain’s Negativity Bias (Here’s How)
You deliver a solid presentation.
Your team’s engaged and most of it lands well.
Then one person looks unconvinced, or someone gives a piece of critical feedback — and that’s the thing your brain keeps replaying all day.
You brush off the praise but can’t stop analysing that one negative comment.
That’s your brain’s negativity bias, and if you don’t stop it, it trains you to trust criticism more than evidence.
Why It Happens
Your brain evolved to spot danger faster than anything else. It’s designed to notice threats, not compliments.
That built-in negativity bias — the tendency to focus more on what’s wrong than what’s right — used to keep you alive.
But nowadays, it causes you to replay criticism, mistakes, or what you “should have” said.
Each time you do, your brain strengthens that thought pattern — like carving a groove or mental pathway it slips into more easily next time.
đź’ˇ Insight: The more time you spend on what went wrong, the harder your brain finds it to notice what went right.
Awareness is the first step. The next is to teach your brain a new pattern.
3 Steps to Outsmart Negativity Bias
1. Catch It Early
When something goes wrong — or even feels wrong — notice how quickly your mind starts replaying it.
That’s your brain trying to protect you by scanning for threats.
Label it early by saying, “This is my negativity bias kicking in.”
That small pause interrupts the loop before it takes over.
💡 Tip: You’re not being negative, your brain’s being protective. Naming it gives you the choice to redirect your focus.
2. Rebalance with Reality
Your brain won’t register neutral or positive moments unless you make it.
It treats them as background noise.
Each time you get feedback, finish a task, or lead a conversation, take 20 seconds to name what went right.
It could be as simple as: “I handled that question calmly,” or “My point landed clearly.”
👉 Action: Say out loud, “One good thing about how I handled that was…”
It sounds small, but it teaches your brain to notice what’s true, not just what went wrong.
3. Rehearse a Better Pattern
Your brain changes through repetition.
Each time you redirect your focus from what went wrong to what went right enough, you weaken the old mental pathway and strengthen a new one.
This isn’t about forced positivity. It’s about accuracy — teaching your brain to see the full picture.
đź’ˇ Tip: Small, consistent reps matter more than big mindset shifts. The rewiring happens through daily micro-corrections.
This Week’s Challenge
Catch your brain’s negativity bias once this week.
When you notice it, label it.
Then name one concrete thing you did well in that same moment.
Do this three times to start retraining the pattern.
Final Thought
Your brain’s first instinct will always be to spot the flaw, that’s biology.
But your second instinct can be stronger: to notice what’s true and balanced.
You can’t stop negativity bias.
But you can outsmart it, and lead with calm, grounded authority instead.
BEFORE YOU GO…
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Thanks for reading.
Until next time,
Kaley
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